We can talk a big game. We can tell people we are going to work out harder than ever before. We will eat all the "right" foods and go after our dreams of a healthy lifestyle and we will start it all tomorrow.
It feels great to have dreams and hopes for your life but what good are they if they only live in your tomorrow? Today is all that matters. What you do, what you eat, how you live today is what counts not tomorrow.
Choose to be happy today.
Choose to be strong today.
Choose to be free today.
Choose to be you today.
No matter what happened yesterday or what is to come tomorrow.
Choose to live out your dreams and reach your goals today.
Focus on your present. One step leads to the next. Each step gives you confidence in taking the next step. So if you feel you need to lose 50 pounds don't focus on 50, focus on losing 1 pound. Before you know it you will reach your goal.
What if I told you, your consistency is killing you?
It is widely regarded that being consistent is one of the greatest keys to success. Without consistency it is nearly impossible to reach your goals and dreams. I believe wholeheartedly in being consistent. I am such a routine person that it’s hard for me to even sleep if I don't accomplish my daily routine before I get into bed. However, what I am realizing is, being consistent is only half of the battle. What if I am consistently doing things that are counterproductive to my goals? What If I am consistently sabotaging my dreams with negative thinking and actions?
You can consistently do squats but use bad form. You may be working out but your bad form is hurting you more than it is helping you. You have to correct your form before your consistency can benefit you. You didn't know you were doing the squats wrong until someone told you. When you become aware now you have the power to remain the same or change.
I believe we all know how to be consistent but we don't always know how to use that trait to our advantage. We are consistently distracted, bored, lazy, and stressed but we don't know how to not be those things. We fall into the same traps and feel guilty and ashamed when we do. We work so hard to positively change our eating habits, our thoughts, and our actions; those things are what is considered to be inconsistent. The inconsistent things seem so unnatural. They make us uncomfortable and challenge us to focus and stay committed to them. Every day we have to consciously decide if we will do those things, while we don't even think about the consistent things, we just do them. They are so much apart of our lives that we don't feel right when they aren’t; it becomes bondage. A lot of times we are more comfortable being in bondage than having the freedom to choose. Making choices means you are also taking ownership of your actions. You choose the path you decide to travel.
It is easy to blame everything but ourselves for our circumstances. We don't want to be accountable for our decisions because we are too comfortable hiding behind our excuses and consistency. How do we break our cycle? How do we change our patterns?
The answer is simple: You choose to.
Our path to success is through being consistent in choosing. Being aware of your choice empowers your actions and thoughts. You free yourself from the “victim” mentality and open yourself to discovering who you are. No matter what toxic things you have allowed in your life, you have the power to choose another way. You are free to choose the inconsistent thing. You have the power to choose life, not death. You have the power to choose self-acceptance instead of self-hate. Everything you desire you can reach if you choose to.
Sometimes you just have to show up. It is not about being perfect. It is not about getting everything right. Just show up. Be present in your moment. You may not feel like working out or following your meal plan but it does not matter how you feel just show up anyway. The reason is when you are present you don’t worry about how you feel about working out because you are actually working out. Next time you don’t feel like doing something just show up in the moment and watch all the negative thoughts about what you were going to do fade away.
We get in our own way. We are the reason we don’t reach the goals we set out to accomplish and the crazy thing is we know it. We spend so much energy feeding all that we do “wrong” that we never actually do anything “right” We create a world full of shame and doubt and we don’t know how to free ourselves from it. So we sit in our shame, feeling pitiful and we feed ourselves junk to numb our hearts.
I have done more harm to myself than anyone else has. I allowed myself to live in a state where I didn’t view myself worthy of happiness and love. Because I didn’t hold myself in a high regard I didn’t care what I put in my body. I didn’t care if I quit on a workout plan. What was the point? I was going to fail anyway. But one day I decided I wanted to rewrite my narrative. It was not about creating myself to be someone I am not; which is what I was doing. I was tired of shaming myself into doing right because it made me want to do the opposite every time. I decided I would not put that kind of pressure on myself to follow some plan perfectly. I would choose every day, every moment to show up. To make it a point to be aware of the moment I was in. Not judging if something was right or wrong but rather doing what was required in that moment. I had to stop viewing working out and eat a more balanced meal plan in a negative way. I was only doing those things because I thought I had to. So instead of thinking negatively about it I just stopped thinking period and I just showed up. I did the push-ups, I ate the oatmeal and I moved on.
My point is, don’t look at the mountain you need to climb, just look at the next step you have to take. Just show up and before you know it you will be at the top.
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